Replace Division with Diversity
Welcome back to part 4 of our 6 part series, Reset and Replace.
A reminder of our premise: Most people don’t accomplish the goals they have in life because of their own self imposed limitations. Mostly likely, YOU are the one thing holding you back from all the success you want in life.
Last week, we talked about replacing Oppression with Opportunity. That was for you. This week, let’s talk about how you relate to other people. Because I don’t know about you, but my dreams are too big to accomplish on my own. That means others will need to be involved. So try this:
Replace Division with Diversity
I cannot stand the fake amount of diversity that people THINK they have. They scream diversity from the rooftops, but they have no clue what it actually means.
My family is a bunch of asian mutts. I married a redhead, my sister married a Mexican, I co-authored a book with a black friend that’s from the ghetto. I am in business with people who are Christian, Jewish, and Muslim. There are so many types of people in our lives that we collaborate with on a regular basis. And it’s not just about them looking different - it’s about the different perspectives and different schools of THOUGHT that they bring. THAT is REAL diversity.
See, I think the problem is that everyone's gotten siloed this year in their own stuff. You have what you think, you have what you believe, and then you’re in this echo chamber of people who share your exact thoughts and opinions.
And then you come across people who aren’t exactly like you, and you don’t know what to do with that. You create division so you don’t have to deal with it.
I know people who won’t buy from certain companies because there’s an in-law of a relative of one of the families that owns the company that they don’t agree with politically. Read that again. It’s like judging me for something my sister’s cat did. Yes, someone actually told me that once.
And you know what I said to them? You’re the problem with America. You’re the problem.
If you don’t want to be around people who aren’t exactly like you, GO ELSEWHERE. THIS IS AMERICA. Wake up! I don’t know what else to tell you. There’s more people that are different from you than will be exactly like you. And if you don’t like that, LEAVE! No one is making you stay!
But if you’re going to stay, STOP CREATING DIVISION. If you’re causing more division, especially if it’s in the name of diversity, YOU are what’s wrong with America.
As you say things, and as you hear things from others - whether it’s your family, a friend, or the media - ask yourself: is this something that’s bringing people together or tearing people apart? Look through that lens and you’ll know whether it’s creating division or diversity. Then act accordingly.
There’s a principle that John Maxwell talks about. It’s called the 101% principle. It basically says this: If someone is different than you, how about you find the 1% you agree on and give it 100% of your effort. Find the 1% you are similar in and give it 100% of your focus.
It’s absolutely ridiculous to focus on what makes you different. It’s utter nonsense. But it’s literally happening everywhere in the world right now. And if you want to move forward in life, you have to fight it. Because one is too small a number to do anything great. You have to learn how to work together with people if you’re going to grow, in any arena.
If you look for ways to relate instead of reasons to divide, I bet you’ll find a lot more than 1% similarity with people.
Why do I say that? Well, what’s wired in a lot of people? What people want, what they want to do for their family - all the stuff that’s ACTUALLY important tends to be quite similar. So why don’t we focus on that?
If we want to truly embrace diversity, we need to learn how to speak a language that is universal. It’s not English. It’s not Spanish. It’s a language called winning.
Everyone wants to win. Everyone wants to take care of their family. Everyone wants to try to be the best version of themselves. Everyone knows there are things going on in their life that they want to change. Those are things that everyone understands.
Winning is a universal language. Empowerment is a universal language. Encouragement is a universal language. Everyone wants to be seen. Everyone wants to be around good people. When we talk about the things everyone wants and understands, it’s very easy to connect with all different kinds of people.
The world is always going to do its best to make you focus on what’s different instead of similar. But have you ever noticed that when you get around groups of successful people, they’re not dealing with the same stuff that’s constantly dividing the world? There’s no room for it in those circles. When we’re focused on moving forward in life, we’re too consumed with the important stuff. And the important stuff lives in your heart, not in how you look.
You can have a mindset that looks for division, one that creates division, or you can have a mindset that embraces diversity.
When you embrace diversity, your perspective and understanding of the world broadens. You broaden. That’s how you create working relationships, mature relationships - by broadening yourself to embrace others.
When you focus on the stuff that actually matters, that’s when you can take ground. And like I said, my dreams and goals are far too big to do by myself. And if I need other people, then I’m going to need to embrace diversity as well. And the more diversity we have, the more ground we can take!
See you next week for part 5!